Once you hand over to others the responsibility for your self-worth, lovability, and safety, then you need to do all you can to have control over them giving you what you believe you need from them to feel worthy, happy, and safe. When you have not decided to take responsibility for your own feelings and wellbeing, then you become dependent upon others to do it for you. The wounded self in all of us is both dependent and codependent to one degree or another.īoth dependency and codependency are symptoms of self-abandonment. Most of us grew up with parents who were dependent and codependent, and we learned from them to be the same way. Are you often focused on getting someone else to change so that you feel loved, seen, understood, heard, and valued?.Are you always trying to change yourself to get someone’s love or approval?.
Are you often angry, blaming, compliant, resistant or withdrawn in relationships?.Are you much more aware of others feelings than you are of your own?.Do you believe that others are responsible for your feelings?.Are you terrified of rejection? Do you give yourself up to avoid rejection? Are you willing to lose yourself rather than lose someone else?.Do you feel empty unless you are interacting with others who are approving of you? Are you addicted to approval?.Do you need to be needed to feel worthwhile?.Are you dependent on others for your happiness and sense of wellbeing?.
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